Quietly Brave

Folks, this post really illustrates commitment of one partner to another. Worth a read.

Action Speaks-Voices of Operation Homefront

hov-retreat-operation-homefront-1 So used to putting others first, here wounded warrior caregivers learn it’s okay to take care of yourself, too.

Almost anyone can be brave for five minutes or an hour. The bravery no one talks about is the hardest bravery of all. When you get up in the morning, every morning, even though you’d rather shut out the world for a while longer….or maybe forever. That’s the bravery that doesn’t make headlines and no one notices.

I met some women this weekend at Operation Homefront’s Hearts of Valor retreat who exhibit that kind of bravery. They are young, beautiful, and energetic. Many women their age are pursuing careers and going out with friends. The reality these women live…day in, day out…most of us cannot comprehend.

These women have answered a different call…it’s a call they didn’t choose but couldn’t ignore. That is the calling of a wounded warrior caregiver.


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I really like this one. Another argument for parents doing anything they can to improved their marriage and working better together to raise kids.


What Kids Want Us to Know

This one is hot off the press, and if you read this blog long enough, you will undoubtedly learn many more of the creative ways in which child clients inform me of this tightly held belief:

My parents are whacked. Dharma, age 15

No one will be surprised that I hear some version of this several times a week. The kids who share this sentiment vary in age, diagnosis, gender, etc. Still, there is only a handful of reasons children believe their parents are whacked or crazy or irrational or psycho. Dharma’s comment reflects her frustration over her parents’ seeming inability to agree about the rules of the household. She frequently finds herself uncertain about whose rule to follow, so she does what any self-respecting teenager would do; she follows the rule that suits her best in the moment. This sometimes results in conflict between Dharma and one parent or the other, and…

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When Parents Are at War

What Kids Want Us to Know

I am not sure where this post is going. I don’t know if there is anything I can write that will make a difference. Still, I feel led to share some insights about the impact on children of warring parents. I see this over and over in my practice – two people who at one time must have loved each other, who got married and had one or more children, and who, over time, developed such animosity toward one another that their anger suffuses everything they do. Some of them ended their marriages; others did not. Married or not, they end up in my office expressing concern about a child who is depressed or anxious or defiant or failing in school or fighting on the playground. Some of the kids have a great deal of difficulty talking about the tension in their homes; others, like 17-year-old Rae, put it right…

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Relationship resilience

This might be of interest, especially those readers in the Portland, OR, area.

Check out Coming Back Together: A Guide to Successful Reintegration After Your Partner Returns from Military Deployment, by Steven L. Sayers, Ph.D.

Couples Counseling in Portland

Relationship resilience

It’s important to know how to handle your #relationship.


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